Does It Matter Who My Therapist Is? Tips for Picking the Right Therapist For You

Have you started the process of looking for a therapist?  You may think it doesn't matter who the person is, or that it's ok to just pick the first person that has appointments during times you're available.  I will explain why it's important to find the right therapist for you, and offer tips about how to do that in this post.  Hope you find it helpful. 

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Why Elf on the Shelf is Good for Your Relationship

You've implemented Elf on the Shelf as part of your kid's holiday traditions, but did you realize it could be helping your relationship too?  Rituals are important in any relationship and will help you increase your positive interactions.  Find out why this is important here and how to do this all year long. 

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What To Do When Everything Your Partner Says Annoys You

Your partner isn't necessarily doing anything wrong, yet everything he/she is doing is annoying you.  You realize that you are about to explode at the next corny joke that comes out of his/her mouth.  What can you do to keep your cool and prevent an argument?  I provide some easy steps here. 

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How to Improve your Relationship with your Holiday Wish List

Don't just ask for the same old thing or this year's hottest item.  Get creative with your holiday wish list and find creative ways to improve your relationship at the same time.  It's a win-win.  What could be more important than making sure you have a solid foundation and working towards creating the most amazing relationship possible?  Read here for some ideas. 

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6 Strategies for Dealing with Infertility During the Holidays

If you're going through infertility, the holidays will likely be a challenging time.  You may not even be aware of your emotions or the potential to be put in uncomfortable and stressful situations over the course of the season.  Here I discuss 6 strategies for getting through the holidays, using your support systems, and enjoying your time with your partner. 

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Do Therapists Have Perfect Lives?

I get asked often if my life and marriage are perfect because I'm a therapist.  The short answer is definitely no.  In this post I explore more about what it means to have a relationship with a therapist who is human, not perfect, and able to truly understand your pain. 

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How #ThisPsychMajor and Other Mental Health Professionals are Changing Lives

Mental health professionals are often misunderstood and misrepresented in the media.  Recently Jeb Bush's statements about higher education, specifically psychology majors, has led to the #thispsychmajor Twitter and Facebook campaign.  In this post, I talk about different ways to enter the psychology field, various issues that therapists and counselors work with, and have quotes from therapist's from around the country explaining how they help people change their lives. 

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Face Your Fears: Coming Out of the Infertility Closet

Is the fear of failure of judgment holding you back from sharing your struggles with infertility?  Do you find that you are isolating yourself and cutting off social relationships?  It's National Face your Fears Day, and time to reach out for support in your infertility journey. 

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A Cheat Sheet for How to Talk to Your Infertile Friend

If you've even gotten into a conversation about infertility with a friend, it can be difficult, awkward, and anxiety provoking.  Even though infertility is fairly common, society is ill-equipped to talk openly and in helpful ways.  You are well meaning and strive to be a good friend, but unsure of how to navigate the conversation.  Here's a quick cheat sheet to help you get started.

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"Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" A Relatable Approach to Self-Compassion

Have you heard of self-compassion?  In short, it's a way of understanding the human experience of pain and suffering, knowing that everyone suffers, and being compassion about your own inadequacies or short comings.  For me, I feel like the language of self-compassion can be hard to connect with, but the ideas are so amazing!  Here I break down some of the ideas in a real way that you can embrace. 

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5 Amazingly Simple Ways to Increase Intimacy after Baby - Us plus One: Part 1

You may have noticed that with everything you have to do, daily chores, taking care of your baby, going to work, etc., it's difficult to stay connected to your partner.  If you think about it, there are opportunities all around us to get closer to your partner.  Here I provide 5 simple easy to implement ways to increase intimacy after baby. 

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"When Are You Going to Have a Baby?" How to Start Communicating about Infertility

Are you facing infertility or trouble conceiving?  It can be difficult to explain your situation to family and friends, and inevitably they will be asking you questions about when you're having a baby, or another baby, and when they will become grandparents.  Learn how to begin talking about infertility so that those difficult conversations don't become hurtful and destructive.  You can get the support you need by processing your emotions and communicating your needs clearly. 

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