You’re committed to your relationship and at the same time feeling stuck. You can’t seem to hear each other, get your needs met, the same fight happens on repeat, or you’re not experiencing the type of intimacy you’ve been craving. You value your partner(s) for their unique qualities and are invested in not only making it work but thriving together.

You’re moving right along, trying to connect, and bam! You’re having a casual exchange with your partner and all of a sudden something shifts and now one or both of you feels misunderstood. You reach out for touch and they don’t respond or your partner rarely initiates and you feel lonely right next to them. When this happens, there’s so much going through your head…past relationship wounds, questions about the future, insecurities you thought were conquered, desires for new activities or connections, and fears about speaking your truth.

One person rolls their eyes, sighs, yells, the other shuts down, you both yell, or you go into your separate corners. Any of those ways, things never get resolved. It’s incredibly vulnerable to show up as yourself when you’re scared that could mean the end of your relationship. It seems impossible to express your needs when you’ve never been shown how. Both people are reacting, boundaries and expectations are unclear, and you’re living in a grey area. How do you move forward together?

If you want a counselor who is willing to sit in and sort through messiness with compassion, experience, and humor, let’s explore if I’m a good fit for you.

My Philosophy

I’m Sky. Licensed Professional Counselor Associate located in League City, TX. I am an LGBTQ+ affirming counselor, specializing in helping people achieve empowered relationships. I believe in the value of processing with a dedicated professional committed to your growth.

My own growth includes 15 years of experience in enthusiastic, informed, and consensual nonmonogamy. Through my relationships, I have learned first-hand how to navigate different attachment styles, have difficult conversations, communicate desires and boundaries, implement time management, learn love languages, and so much more.

It's becoming increasingly apparent how dynamic relationships are. With blended families, live-in parents, deciding pets are our children, or deciding to add new partners, there’s no one-size-fits-all model. I believe all relationship structures are valid. Each presents unique complexities. Whether you’re monogamous or more than monogamous, single or partnered, I want to help you find the relationship that’s right for you.

It’s completely possible to have the relationship(s) you want.

If you’ve gotten this far in your search, you know you need someone to help you make sense of the situation and each other. Counseling is a sacred space. Talking to someone and getting help is an act of self-care and maintenance. Ain’t no shame in that game!

I am here to completely hear you, understand your world, welcome your discomfort, and help you discover how to grow into the self and partnership(s) you want. Our relationships are an incredible opportunity to heal and grow. This takes courage and commitment. In my world, “should” is a dirty word. I practice descriptive rather than prescriptive ways of discovering what’s right for you.

Uncertainty, ambivalence, frustration, insecurity, trauma, and more are part of the human experience. So are joy, trust, feeling supported, safe, and seen. Your truth is valid. How you frame or react to that truth might not be working for you. With my guidance, you can learn how to get your core needs met.

I believe by understanding our values, attachment patterns, making the implicit explicit, and building communication and co-regulation skills, we have profound power to build more nourishing connections with ourselves and others. I offer tools and practices that can help you communicate your needs, set and uphold boundaries, de-escalate and resolve conflict, and build a fulfilling sex life!

My Approach

I am open-minded and passionate about working with individuals and couples who feel atypical around identity, sexual expression, or relationship structure. I'm here to help you learn how to express and experience more of what you want. This looks like me getting curious and reflecting what it's like to be with you, helping you notice and address what's no longer working for you, and offering experiential communication skill building exercises that help create understanding and intimacy. I offer homework and media such as books/audiobooks, podcasts, series, apps, etc. I think is relevant to our work.

My role is to help you clarify the chaos, hold space for your discomfort, offer a fresh perspective, highlight your strengths, and collaborate on coping skills that can serve you now and in the future.

I help people access and express their truth to create more empowered lives and connecting relationships.

I am excited about helping people foster intimacy in all forms. Our relationship to trust has been learned gradually over the course of our lives. This affects how we trust ourselves, others, and whether we choose to tolerate or thrive. Tension and conflict are inevitable. I am adept at helping clients ask for what they want, set and honor boundaries, build skills in conflict prevention, de-escalation, and resolution, and receive the touch and intimacy they desire.

While your initial intent may be to retain the relationship, I will balance prioritizing shared goals with individual well-being.I am honest about what comes up for me and call in the behavior and actions that will move you toward your goals, which might be vulnerable or challenging at times, and often leads to greater clarity and trust between myself and the client(s).

I respect the resiliency of the human spirit and trust that you’re the expert on your life, and I’m the expert on healthy communication. Like you, I won’t always know the answer. You describe the landscape, I’ll help draw the map, and together we can explore the uncharted territories.

At our practice, there’s no designated or required number of sessions. The pace of your journey depends on how you prioritize the work we do in and out of session. I can provide the seeds. You must plant, water, and care for them.

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My Ideal Clients Are…

individuals, couples, or polycules, who see the value in understanding themselves and relationship dynamics to contribute to genuine change. You have a foundation of respect and want to grow toward each other, build clearer communication, and learn healthier ways of approaching intimacy. You are dedicated to practicing and applying skills between sessions. You are looking for someone who validates perspectives while holding accountability for achieving your goals.

My ideal clients are in a transitionary period and looking for proactive ways to build a future together. You might be getting married, needing to repair trust, or in the early stages of opening your relationship. Whether you want to heal, re-configure, or open to whole new ways of connecting, I have the tools and expertise for you. Let’s create your optimal relationship(s)!

Qualifications/Education

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor-Associate. I am a lead facilitator in a conscious relating community called Authentic Houston. I work with individuals, couples, and groups. I create, lead, and staff retreats providing content on relationships, non-violent communication, and inclusivity. After completing my internship here at the Center for Couples Counseling and obtaining my license (License No. 89922), I have joined the amazing team of highly specialized couples’ therapists. My specialties are experiential communication skills, intentional relationships, trust, empowerment, intimacy, and sex.

I am under the supervision of Erika Labuzan-Lopez (LMFT-Supervisor No. 202082, LPC-Supervisor No. 71690). Erika and I discuss each case, develop treatment plans together, and consult on areas of sensitivity.