Conscious Un-coupling: Break-up with Messy Break-up's

 

Are you uncertain about staying in a relationship? Is a path forward foggy? Do you share caretaking responsibilities and want to continue to do that mindfully, even if the nature of your relationship is changing?

 

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We’re here to help! In relational work there’s a lot of gray area to navigate between a happy and fulfilling loving partnership and nothing or divorce. Through couples counseling, you have the opportunity to get closer to the same shade of gray. Based on our collective experience working with couples from all walks of life and stages of relationship, we have the expertise to help you discover what kind of connection is serving for you both and your biological or chosen family.

Being polyamorous, I’ve personally navigated a lot of different types of relationship transitions. All while maintaining and investing in existing relationships. I’ve experienced a few painful endings (mostly from ghosting) and one very messy break-up with two romantic partners at the same time and losing my relationship with a child in that equation. I know firsthand how heartbreaking that is. That said, with clear communication, more often than not I’ve been able to maintain healthy connections, sometimes friendships, with many people after being romantic or physical was no longer the right fit.

 

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My earlier blog about intentional relationships isn’t only relevant to beginning or changing a relationship toward more connection, it’s also applicable to shifting toward detangling and sorting your lives with care and consideration of the family system you’ve created.

 

Why Try Conscious Un-coupling?

Firstly, it’s also possible that in examining and being honest about your strengths and weaknesses, the path toward fulfilling connection becomes clearer. You might even decide to retain a majority of the relationship and learn ways to tweak and refresh it.

 

If you’re certain that you want a paradigm shift in the relationship yet are concerned about how you’ll react when your ex-partner gets a new partner, I can help you explore your feelings of jealousy.

 

If you’re concerned about the new people who could enter your child’s or chosen family’s life through the interactions of your ex-partner, I can help you create agreements for how and when to introduce those people into the system.

 

If your partner cheated, we can help you process your feelings and re-build trust to be able to continue sharing the responsibilities of a business, pet, or child.

 

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We don’t have to live in cut-off culture. It might seem easier, and sometimes is necessary, yet it can often stifle growth. You have options for creating the relationship structure and living situation that works best for you.

 

Options to explore:

1.      You might decide to divorce and live in separate spaces.

2.      You might decide to stay in the same house and move to separate rooms.

3.      Maybe you’re in a long-distance relationship and you’re not getting all of your needs met, yet you still deeply care for one another.

4.      You’re actually a great team in some areas and the romantic or physical intimacy pieces aren’t jiving. What then?

5.      You might decide to continue to cohabitate and see other people. What conversations need to occur?

6.      If you have children or pets, you’ll want to learn how to co-parent and set healthy models for mutual respect. (More on co-parenting in next month’s blog series by Jaimi).

 

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In early stages of conscious un-coupling the intention of working as a team to stay in healthy connection is the most important piece. If this ‘why’ is your North star, we can work together to sort out the rest.

My name is Sky Yeater and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate at the Center for Couples Counseling. I am passionate about helping couples and individuals pause, evaluate, set goals, and heal. To set up your free phone consultation so we can determine fit, call (832) 827-3288. Our Center serves couples and individuals in League City and Houston, Texas and all residents of Texas online!

Interested in Meeting a Couples Therapist in League City, TX?

If you want to improve your relationship and reconnect with your partner, take action now and start being more curious about your relationship. At Center For Couples Counseling, one of our skilled couples therapists can help you and your partner navigate your challenges and rediscover the curiosity and passion that brought you together in the first place. Don't wait any longer to invest in the health and happiness of your relationship. To meet with a couples therapist follow these three simple steps:

  1. Contact us to schedule an appointment

  2. Meet with one of our skilled couples therapists

  3. Begin to find the curiosity in your relationship and reconnect with your partner!

Other Services Offered at Center for Couples Counseling

At Center For Couples Counseling, our team of skilled therapists understands that your relationship may be facing different challenges. In addition to couples therapy, our Texas practice offers individual therapy, infertility counseling, postpartum anxiety and depression counseling, therapy for self-care and burnout, and therapy for perfectionism. For more about us check out our FAQs and blog!

 
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