You married your person all those years ago, and now you question if you even know who your partner is. As a couple, you used to be on the same page and see eye to eye on most things. Making decisions about where to go for dinner or what healthcare plan to pick was a relatively smooth process. And now, you can’t schedule a vacation or make a grocery list without bickering and engaging in conflict, and then it’s off to the races.

The only thing the two of you can agree on right now is that you want to make this relationship work.

But how do you do that? What is the path back to laughing together, being in sync, moving through life with ease, and feeling connected? All you want is to look at your partner and excitedly say “ahhh, there’s my person again.”

After years of small things building up, finding your way back to each other feels like a challenge. There have been countless misunderstandings in which you were just trying to share a thought about an article you read that day, and left the conversation feeling unseen and unheard. Instances where you’ve attempted to approach a hard topic in the right way after rehearsing your pitch over and over again, only to be dismissed or not taken seriously. Eventually the two of you are able to come to some type of resolve, but it’d be nice to not have to go through the typical argument and flood of emotions to get there.

You get enough glimpses of the person you used to feel so close to that you couldn’t imagine being more connected than you are. You know that the relationship can be revived, it’s within reach, but you need someone to help you get there. It took time to feel this disconnected, but it feels like it happened overnight. You need a couples therapist who can help you get things back on track quickly, and begin the journey to heal together.

A lot of therapists can validate and empathize with your point of view, but oftentimes there’s little to no real movement for couples after an hour of talking if the therapist doesn’t provide practical tools and strategies. You’ve been digging this hole for years, and you’re ready to get out NOW. If you want a therapist who will get in the bottom of the hole with you and be by your side the entire time you’re climbing out, let’s take some time to explore if I’m the right fit for you.

My Philosophy

I’m Tamsin. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate located in League City, Tx. I am an LBGTQ+ affirming counselor, specializing in helping people see their relationship in a new way so they can change their behavior. I believe we can all have the relationship we really want by challenging our mindsets and learning to grow together.

Relationships are multifaceted, and I enjoy looking at each part and figuring out how all the pieces come together in a way that can be healing. Humans don’t exist in a vacuum; we are influenced by our upbringing, experiences, intergenerational patterns, social context, and our support system. I sit with my clients as we explore all the pieces of the puzzle in a non-judgmental way. We simply need to see what we’re dealing with in order to move forward.

I help people learn how to think about situations and solutions instead of telling them what to think.

Taking a step in my office for your first therapy session is an act of bravery. I know how hard it can be to feel so defeated but have so much desire to change and make things work. Although I won’t tell you what to think and do, I will validate where you are and challenge you to get where you want to go.

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My Approach

I believe each of us has to value ourselves enough to change, and the outcome of that change is being met with the ability to live relationally with those around us. You can’t control what anyone else is doing, but you can change your actions and responses. By being empowered to make adaptive changes, you can recognize that relationships are necessary and you get to decide how to operate within them. I love setting some healthy boundaries, and so do my clients!

Therapy is so personal and specific to each person and couple. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to how I work with my clients. I utilize evidence-based tools and techniques, provide strategies, and will assign practical homework, but my greatest value comes from being with my clients, just a human in a room (or hole) with other humans connecting on a deeper level.

I respect my clients autonomy and feel honored to share space with them. I love to work hard but also laugh hard. Therapy doesn’t have to be stuffy and dramatic. And in that vein, I can promise to tell you what you need to hear, which is perhaps not always what you want to hear. By being honest and taking steps to radically accept our realities, we have more freedom to shape and change our worldview and actions. How cool is that!

Qualifications/Education

Self-worth, self-awareness, and gratitude make up my core values. I believe in the power of knowledge and understanding one another, without conditions. I enjoy working with both individuals and couples, and I believe that every single person, regardless of background, beliefs, persuasions, affiliations, or afflictions, deserves to feel validated. After completing my internship at a larger private practice and obtaining my provisional license (License No. 96621), I am thrilled to join the amazingly talented team of relationship experts at the Center for Couple's Counseling. My specialties include communication skills, trauma processing, radical acceptance, establishing thresholds and setting boundaries, reframing and perspectives, exploring sexuality, and LGBTQ+ aligned care.

As an LPC-Associate, I am under the supervision of Erika Labuzan-Lopez (LMFT-Supervisor No. 202082, LPC-Supervisor No. 71690). Erika and I consult on cases, curate treatment plans together, and communicate openly to ensure each client receives the customized care they need to help them realize their fullest potential.